Karen Dehais
Concluding this season is a conversation with Karen Dehais ’85, detailing her work with Catholic Charities, her continued service to Notre Dame, and thoughts on finding balance in her career and family life.
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Jesus said to his disciples:
“I have come to set the earth on fire,
and how I wish it were already blazing!
There is a baptism with which I must be baptized,
and how great is my anguish until it is accomplished!
Do you think that I have come to establish peace on the earth?
No, I tell you, but rather division.
From now on a household of five will be divided,
three against two and two against three;
a father will be divided against his son
and a son against his father,
a mother against her daughter
and a daughter against her mother,
a mother-in-law against her daughter-in-law
and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law.”
Excerpts from the Lectionary for Mass for Use in the Dioceses of the United States of America, second typical edition © 2001, 1998, 1997, 1986, 1970 Confraternity of Christian Doctrine, Inc., Washington, DC. Used with permission. All rights reserved. No portion of this text may be reproduced by any means without permission in writing from the copyright owner. The full readings of the day from the Lectionary are available here.
As a priest, I have often noticed that whenever I have proclaimed this text at Mass, people involuntarily recoil. Even I do sometimes. It keeps us guessing at the purpose of Jesus for using such language, which, for good reason, may move us not to identify with him. But precisely in these uneasy expressions, Jesus shares with us a spiritual principle that we so need in our time.
While I was a seminarian in Nigeria, I had a friend. He was very dear to me. To say it simply, he
was family. At a point, he started drifting away from values we held dear, bordering on faith and
good conscience. I had the words that the invitation of the gospel bids me to share with him, but
I was hesitant to do that. In those days, I was taken over by concern over our friendship should I
have shared with him the truth that burned in me. At that initial stage, I chose the easier option. I
chose to keep to myself, to remain nice towards him rather than disrupt the peace of our
friendship with the truth that he needed to hear. In that moment, I defined God’s invitation to
Christian witnessing with my attitude not to offend, not to break peace. It is to situations
like this that Jesus speaks to in this gospel.
How often do we define the invitations of our Christian vocation by our disposition to be merely
nice? It is genuine to be nice, but the vocation of a Christian is beyond that. We stand in the
world as embodiments of this fire that Jesus desires that it was already blazing; the fire of truth,
the fire of love, the fire of holiness.
With a tone of urgency, Jesus invites us to embody the virtues of goodness and truth to the world. On September 24, in St. Louis, Missouri, the church bore witness to a pastor who did just this, Blessed Fulton Sheen. He heard the invitation of the gospel and understood that it needed to be preached, and that he did with boldness. May we come to such realization in our lives.
Father all-powerful, you sent the Holy Spirit into the world to set our hearts on fire. May the grace we receive through your Spirit help us to heal the divisions that separate us from our brothers and sisters. Help us to be zealous advocates of your undying love for humanity, so that all people will work to make you known, loved, and served. We make this prayer through Christ, our Lord. Amen.
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