Karen Dehais
Concluding this season is a conversation with Karen Dehais ’85, detailing her work with Catholic Charities, her continued service to Notre Dame, and thoughts on finding balance in her career and family life.
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Standing by the cross of Jesus were his mother
and his mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Clopas,
and Mary Magdalene.
When Jesus saw his mother and the disciple there whom he loved
he said to his mother, “Woman, behold, your son.”
Then he said to the disciple,
“Behold, your mother.”
And from that hour the disciple took her into his home.
Excerpts from the Lectionary for Mass for Use in the Dioceses of the United States of America, second typical edition © 2001, 1998, 1997, 1986, 1970 Confraternity of Christian Doctrine, Inc., Washington, DC. Used with permission. All rights reserved. No portion of this text may be reproduced by any means without permission in writing from the copyright owner. The full readings of the day from the Lectionary are available here.
Loving is hard; it can even look like standing at the foot of the cross. As disciples of Christ, we are called to love beyond the comforts and conveniences into the hard, stark reality of loving when it is costly. On this feast of the patroness of the Congregation of Holy Cross, we keep our station with the sorrowful mother whose heart is pierced by unwavering love for her son.
C.S. Lewis wrote, “Love anything and your heart will be wrung, and possibly be broken.” I don’t think I really understood the power of this sentiment until I watched how my mother lovingly cared for her father in the final hours of his life, staying that night in the hospital with him as he moved closer to death. She had cared for him for years as he slowly declined, but in these final moments it was evident to me that while she was mourning and grieving the imminent death of her parent, she loved him deeply. Despite the heartbreak, grief, and sorrow, she remained present not out of duty or fear, but of gentle and generous love for the man who raised her.
Years later, when I had the supreme privilege of anointing and eventually burying my own father, I understood the beauty of loving another at the foot of their cross. Our Lady of Sorrows stands beside the cross of Jesus, grieving and mourning; Mary loves her Son in her sorrow.
She does not flee when fear and despair scatter the apostles, nor does she waver when mourning rends her immaculate heart. She is faithful when fidelity means feeling to the utmost every sorrow. Our Lady of Sorrows models for each of us how costly love can be, and how love truly believes, endures, and overcomes all things. Our Lady and Mother, shows us, her sons and daughters, the glory and the hope of the cross, as Jesus himself entrusts us to her tender care.
God, grant us the patience to live as Our Lady of Sorrows did, a perfect model of hope at the foot of the cross. Thank you for providing us such a profound example of love and acceptance of your will. We don’t have to bear our daily crosses alone, for you have given us your son, Jesus Christ, and his mother, Mary, to help us find our way. Please bless the Congregation of Holy Cross and all of its lay collaborators, benefactors, and friends as we celebrate our patroness today.
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Karen Dehais
Concluding this season is a conversation with Karen Dehais ’85, detailing her work with Catholic Charities, her continued service to Notre Dame, and thoughts on finding balance in her career and family life.
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Prof. Meghan Sullivan
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Deacon Kevin Conneely
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Dr. Joanna Fava
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Fr. Mark Poorman, CSC
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Bobby Kloska
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Sr. Mariana Koonce, RSM
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Kristin Komyatte Sheehan
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Tim and Ryan O’Neill
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Laura Kelly Fanucci
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Dr. Craig Humphreys
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Fr. Joe Carey, CSC
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Mike Griffin and Jessica Thomas
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Prof. Margaret Pfeil
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Fr. Lou DelFra, CSC
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Avis Boyd
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Tim and Lindsay Will
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Dr. Andrew McShane
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Nan Tulchinsky
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Bishop Bob Lombardo, CFR
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Lisa Orchen
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