Karen Dehais
Concluding this season is a conversation with Karen Dehais ’85, detailing her work with Catholic Charities, her continued service to Notre Dame, and thoughts on finding balance in her career and family life.
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On a sabbath Jesus went to dine
at the home of one of the leading Pharisees,
and the people there were observing him carefully.
He told a parable to those who had been invited,
noticing how they were choosing the places of honor at the table.
“When you are invited by someone to a wedding banquet,
do not recline at table in the place of honor.
A more distinguished guest than you may have been invited by him,
and the host who invited both of you may approach you and say,
‘Give your place to this man,’
and then you would proceed with embarrassment
to take the lowest place.
Rather, when you are invited,
go and take the lowest place
so that when the host comes to you he may say,
‘My friend, move up to a higher position.’
Then you will enjoy the esteem of your companions at the table.
For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled,
but the one who humbles himself will be exalted.”
Excerpts from the Lectionary for Mass for Use in the Dioceses of the United States of America, second typical edition © 2001, 1998, 1997, 1986, 1970 Confraternity of Christian Doctrine, Inc., Washington, DC. Used with permission. All rights reserved. No portion of this text may be reproduced by any means without permission in writing from the copyright owner. The full readings of the day from the Lectionary are available here.
When I was given the chance to write a daily gospel reflection, I was glad this was the reading. My mother does not like a big fuss being made over her, but today happens to be her birthday. So, yes, I am going to fuss over her just a bit because her life of selflessness is the perfect example of what Jesus is talking about.
I am the youngest of six. When it was time to eat, we did exactly what Jesus had warned against. We fought for the seats we wanted. Meanwhile, I am pretty sure my mother never sat down most nights. She was between the stove and the table, making sure that children who were still busy arguing with mouths full of food had enough to eat. Jesus tells the invited guests to take the lowest place. She often had no place at all.
That was not only true at dinner. She put what we needed ahead of what she wanted, and she was generous with her time: help with homework, a ride to the doctor, the ordinary things we can take for granted. She demonstrated humility in all the sacrifices that she made for us and everything she did.
I am grown now and out of that house, and my ego still gets the best of me at times. Saint Augustine called pride the root of sin. I know that there are times that I am guilty of desires to be exalted and put in a place of honor. On this “All Hallows Eve,” before the day we mark all of the saints who have come before us, I am most grateful my saint of a mother showed me another way to come to the table.
Lord, it is sometimes difficult to believe that those who humble themselves will be exalted, especially when those who seem to act unjustly are held in high esteem. Breathe your Spirit into us so that we may bear the injustices of this world as you bore the cross. Breathe your Spirit into us that we may also have the competence to see how we might ameliorate these injustices. Give us the courage to act when appropriate. We eagerly await your just judgement, Lord, and look towards your coming kingdom. Amen.
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