Karen Dehais
Concluding this season is a conversation with Karen Dehais ’85, detailing her work with Catholic Charities, her continued service to Notre Dame, and thoughts on finding balance in her career and family life.
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Jesus told his disciples this parable:
“The kingdom of heaven is like a landowner
who went out at dawn to hire laborers for his vineyard.
After agreeing with them for the usual daily wage,
he sent them into his vineyard.
Going out about nine o’clock,
the landowner saw others standing idle in the marketplace,
and he said to them, ‘You too go into my vineyard,
and I will give you what is just.’
So they went off.
And he went out again around noon,
and around three o’clock, and did likewise.
Going out about five o’clock,
the landowner found others standing around, and said to them,
‘Why do you stand here idle all day?’
They answered, ‘Because no one has hired us.’
He said to them, ‘You too go into my vineyard.’
When it was evening the owner of the vineyard said to his foreman,
‘Summon the laborers and give them their pay,
beginning with the last and ending with the first.’
When those who had started about five o’clock came,
each received the usual daily wage.
So when the first came, they thought that they would receive more,
but each of them also got the usual wage.
And on receiving it they grumbled against the landowner, saying,
‘These last ones worked only one hour,
and you have made them equal to us,
who bore the day’s burden and the heat.’
He said to one of them in reply,
‘My friend, I am not cheating you.
Did you not agree with me for the usual daily wage?
Take what is yours and go.
What if I wish to give this last one the same as you?
Or am I not free to do as I wish with my own money?
Are you envious because I am generous?’
Thus, the last will be first, and the first will be last.”
Excerpts from the Lectionary for Mass for Use in the Dioceses of the United States of America, second typical edition © 2001, 1998, 1997, 1986, 1970 Confraternity of Christian Doctrine, Inc., Washington, DC. Used with permission. All rights reserved. No portion of this text may be reproduced by any means without permission in writing from the copyright owner. The full readings of the day from the Lectionary are available here.
My first response upon hearing this passage was a childlike reaction: “that ain’t fair.” This was my go-to phrase whenever I felt that someone received more than they deserved and I believed I should have received a greater share, no matter what was at stake. Even growing into adulthood, this sense of fairness remains with us. We all expect to be treated fairly and to be rewarded in proportion to what we contribute. On deeper reflection, however, this expectation sometimes leads us to the conclusion that life itself is not fair.
Yet this belief that “life ain’t fair” is not the whole truth. When we consider God’s grace, we see the ultimate expression of fairness. God shares grace with everyone, regardless of how much we believe we deserve it. When we reflect on this, it becomes clear that God is willing to give grace to each of us, and in doing so, we all receive far more than we deserve. It does not matter if we have worked eight hours or only one, or if we have prayed every day or just once; what truly matters is that God loves us all equally. Our reward in heaven is to be with God, not to achieve a “higher place.” We will all be with the Lord and Jesus, loved equally by him.
Heaven is not like a Taylor Swift concert or a Super Bowl game where seats are tiered from the best to the worst. Instead, we all have ringside seats; we are all by the Lord’s side. What could be more fair than that? We should not only be thankful for what we have received, but also for being given so much more than we deserve. This abundance is the very goodness of God’s grace.
Lord God, we are thankful that we may come before you, confused, even puzzled at times, at our failures and weaknesses in serving you. We know that if we seek forgiveness, we shall find it. You have assured us that even the angels in heaven rejoice over one sinner turning back to the Lord of love and forgiveness. Hear our prayer, Lord, and look not at our failures, but at our hearts that desire to be one with you. Let us honor you in word and deed, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Amen.
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