Karen Dehais
Concluding this season is a conversation with Karen Dehais ’85, detailing her work with Catholic Charities, her continued service to Notre Dame, and thoughts on finding balance in her career and family life.
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Asked by the Pharisees when the Kingdom of God would come,
Jesus said in reply,
“The coming of the Kingdom of God cannot be observed,
and no one will announce, ‘Look, here it is,’ or, ‘There it is.’
For behold, the Kingdom of God is among you.”
Then he said to his disciples,
“The days will come when you will long to see
one of the days of the Son of Man, but you will not see it.
There will be those who will say to you,
‘Look, there he is,’ or ‘Look, here he is.’
Do not go off, do not run in pursuit.
For just as lightning flashes
and lights up the sky from one side to the other,
so will the Son of Man be in his day.
But first he must suffer greatly and be rejected by this generation.”
Excerpts from the Lectionary for Mass for Use in the Dioceses of the United States of America, second typical edition © 2001, 1998, 1997, 1986, 1970 Confraternity of Christian Doctrine, Inc., Washington, DC. Used with permission. All rights reserved. No portion of this text may be reproduced by any means without permission in writing from the copyright owner. The full readings of the day from the Lectionary are available here.
What if the life we seek is right in front of us? I was raised to work hard, pitch in, and do so without expecting praise—the words “I love you” lived as a verb, gifted through action. But as pressures to succeed mounted, “working harder” sometimes caused a crumbling under the weight of too much distraction.
When we get too busy, “I love you” can become something we say rather than something we do. Our words promise devotion while our attention goes to work, to screens, to inboxes and deadlines. But love is only felt and cultivated through action. When it shrinks to a phrase, it stops being something we experience and becomes something we merely describe, an adjective in place of a verb.
Today’s scripture warns us of following a false promise: “There will be those who will say to you, ‘Look, there he is,’ or ‘Look, here he is.’” To seek fulfillment in the word “there” or “here” ensures that the kingdom of God among us remains out of reach. I am working hard, giving my all, but my actions are displaced. Enacted love is impoverished; love becomes only an adjective.
Later, Jesus addresses his disciples about his own suffering. In our brief lives, suffering serves as an integral part of the human experience. But could it be that the way we have come to “work harder” to avoid suffering covertly swaps love as a verb for love as an adjective? We chase that false promise with ever more vigor, contributing not only to our own suffering, but also to the suffering of those we wish to love the most. I’d like to believe that’s why Christ reminds us that the kingdom of God is among us.
When we do our best to live a life with love as a verb— steadfast, patient, attentive, forgiving, accountable—our very suffering gifts us an opportunity for new life, right here, right now… the life we seek right in front of us, when we have the courage to love.
God of all time and seasons, as autumn turns to winter and the days grow shorter, we remember and hope for your holy light in our lives. Give us your grace to see that where there is love, we find you among us—your kingdom here and now. Forgive our failing to love, to reconcile, to be converted. Fill our hearts with your love and give us the courage and strength to share it freely as your beloved sons and daughters. Come Holy Spirit—enkindle with us the fire of your love! Amen.
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Karen Dehais
Concluding this season is a conversation with Karen Dehais ’85, detailing her work with Catholic Charities, her continued service to Notre Dame, and thoughts on finding balance in her career and family life.
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Prof. Meghan Sullivan
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Deacon Kevin Conneely
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Dr. Joanna Fava
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Fr. Mark Poorman, CSC
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Bobby Kloska
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Sr. Mariana Koonce, RSM
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Kristin Komyatte Sheehan
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Tim and Ryan O’Neill
Share in the music and story of The O’Neill Brothers, who have touched many lives through their talents on the piano as well as more recently by establishing a family foundation.
Laura Kelly Fanucci
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Dr. Craig Humphreys
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Fr. Joe Carey, CSC
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Mike Griffin and Jessica Thomas
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Prof. Margaret Pfeil
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Fr. Lou DelFra, CSC
Fr. Lou DelFra, CSC, shares the moments that eventually led him to a vocation in religious life and priesthood, along with a specific ministry of forming aspiring Catholic teachers.
Avis Boyd
We continue this season with Avis Boyd, a longtime volunteer and alumna of Notre Dame, as she shares her perspective on moving through life with purpose, conviction, and a deep faith, even in the face of adversity.
Tim and Lindsay Will
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Dr. Andrew McShane
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Nan Tulchinsky
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Bishop Bob Lombardo, CFR
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Veronica Alonzo
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Dr. Jim O’Connell
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Lisa Orchen
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